How Young People Talk About Abstaining from Sex
Angie Hunt, 6 Dec 17
       

(Credit: @jehnner/Twenty20)

New research determines how college students initiate conversations about their decision to abstain from or delay sex, and the strategies they use to explain this to their partners.

At a time of greater awareness about sexual assault, Tina Coffelt, an assistant professor of English and communication studies at Iowa State University, says it is important to help students navigate these conversations.

Young adults may be reluctant to express these needs because of fear of rejection from their partner, or they may feel it is taboo to talk openly about sexual activity, she says. There are resources available, but many focus on safe sex.

“Our culture assumes that young adults do not want to wait, so the messages are always about how to have safe sex,” Coffelt says. “What about students or emerging adults who don’t want to have sex? There just doesn’t seem to be that much support, especially from a secular perspective.”

Other studies have shown as many as 25 percent of young adults are virgins. Part of Coffelt’s motivation for this study, published in the Western Journal of Communication, was to identify the tactics students use when talking about abstinence or delaying. She says some health centers and websites promote “talking with your partner,” but offer no guidance or explanation of what that means.

Coffelt collected data through online surveys of 192 young adults and interviews with 27. Nearly all participants agreed the conversation should include a reason or explanation for delaying or abstaining. Coffelt says this point struck her because she found no evidence in the existing research of young adults explaining why they were sexually active. However, in her study a majority said some rationale was necessary when abstaining.

Three themes

Asserting or enforcing an individual right was the most frequently stated goal—43 percent—for study participants. Coffelt identified three distinct themes or ways they engaged in conversations to delay or abstain:

  A personal choice that reflected independence and an expectation the choice be respected;

  A joint decision or collaboration as a couple to reach an agreement about sexual activity;

  An individual demand for no sexual intercourse, but presented as a joint decision.

In the study, 94 percent of participants said they did not have sex on the day they had this conversation. Coffelt says this shows their partners respected and honored their wishes. The conversations often began as sexual activity escalated. Participants told their partner “no” or used a nonverbal distancing cue to stop the activity, which was followed by a conversation later. Some conversations were initiated well before any sexual activity occurred, the study finds.

Given that some young adults avoid these conversations because of fear of rejection, Coffelt hopes this study will lessen those concerns.

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